The mass murderer profile thread

A backed up Twitter thread, because I regularly delete my tweets (here’s why, and why you should, too).

[cw murder] I have literally no idea why all of the media are calling the Toronto killer’s Facebook post “cryptic”. It’s very clear in its intent and if anyone had bothered investigating online communities of white misogynists, the entire thing is basically bog-standard.
lemme break it down for you: these white misogynists fucking love the army and see themselves as soldiers. They hate people they see as “normies”, and consider themselves outside and above it. And they fucking agree with every page of Rodger’s manifesto. Pretty non-cryptic tbh.
The fact that anyone investigating this post thinks it’s “cryptic” shows that they’ve clearly learned NOTHING from the spate of mass murders and still haven’t bothered probing how this radicalised community functions.
And if you’ve spent 30 seconds on reddit, all of the language used in the Toronto murderer’s post is not even remotely cryptic. It is literally par for the course in this community.
This is part of the reason why r/incel was banned along with several other alt-right and misogynistic subreddits: even *reddit*, the perineum of the internet, recognised the potentially dangerous and threatening radicalisation happening there.
And of course, women have been pointing out the threat posed by these white misogynists since fucking forever, and because nobody listened, we’ve now had a spate of mass murders with killers of the exact profile we’ve been saying was dangerous.
So, law enforcement: listen to women. We’ve been doing what you’ve failed to do and monitored the situation.
Here are some things to look out for, since apparently I’m having to do your fucking job for you:
-White male
-Misogynistic
-Thinks he’s entitled to sex
-Fetishises the military
-Really loves guns or other weapons
-A record of violence against women

You’re welcome.

They’re also highly likely to *also* express racist sentiments, because this shit all goes hand in hand, so watch out for overt racism, nationalism, and dogwhistles.
At the end of the day, none of this is remotely cryptic to anyone who’s been paying attention to the situation.

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The TERFs at Pride thread

A backed up Twitter thread, because I regularly delete my tweets (here’s why, and why you should, too).

Thinking about the bigots protesting Pride yesterday, I suppose it was a bit of a relief to see that there was only a handful of them and it *was* the same faces who picketed the Dyke March a few years back, suggesting they’re failing miserably at recruiting. BUT…
That’s absolutely no reason to be complacent. Despite the tiny numbers, we lesbians do need to admit we have this problem of bigots within our community and do what we must to deal with that problem.
It’s not enough to say “they don’t represent us”, although of course they don’t represent us. We need to take a hard-line stance, zero tolerance, standing up to transphobia wherever possible and constantly showing solidarity with and centring our trans lesbian sisters.
We KNOW who some of these people who appropriate lesbian identity in order to spread bigotry are. We need to ensure they are not welcome in lesbian spaces; as well as being bigots they pose a material physical danger to trans and cis dykes alike.
(for those wondering why they’re a threat to cis lesbians too, imagine one of those bigots decides you’re quite tall and they can ~always tell~ when someone’s trans)
We need to make it very clear that transphobia and transmisogyny is NOT WELCOME in our lesbian community and our lesbian spaces. We’re doing this already, to some extent, now let’s do it MORE.
As lesbians, we’re best placed to clean out the massive turd on our own carpet, and as *cis* lesbians, we are the ones who MUST do the heavy lifting here. Cis lesbians are uniquely placed to deal with the dangers posed by bigoted cis lesbians.
Silence is violence and what we cis lesbians need to say is not “not all cis lesbians” but “these transmisogynistic bigots are disgusting and not welcome. I support my trans lesbian sisters”. That’s where we start, and now we get out the metaphorical marigolds and clean our house
Oh and finally, on a purely pragmatic level we kind of need to deal with the bigot lesbians because their definition of lesbian is so fucking narrow that all lesbians will have died out in 20 years or so when old age has claimed those nasty sorts.
tl;dr us cis lesbians gotta step the fuck up because that handful of bigots are our problem and we need to deal with it.

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The junk thread

A backed up Twitter thread, because I regularly delete my tweets (here’s why, and why you should, too).

Here, we have yet another TERF who is completely unaware of how female biology works. Everyone has prostate tissue. Literally everyone. You’re assigned female at birth, you still have prostate tissue.

You’re born with a pussy? Yep, you still got prostate tissue, we call it Skene’s glands. They secrete prostate specific antigen.

Literally everyone starts out with the same gubbins, and it just moves about depending on what switches on while you’re gestating. If you’re assigned female at birth, you still have a prostate and all the erectile tissue for a penis.

If you’re assigned female at birth, you have one of these. It looks like a dick when you look at it. It’s because it’s all the same tissue.

Nature is lazy. It’s easiest for nature to give everyone the same parts and tweak the arrangement a little. But whatever we’re assigned at birth, we all have the same junk.

But yeah, I genuinely feel sorry for TERFs, being so desperate to make up a definition of “woman” that excludes trans women, that they’re alienating themselves from their *own* biology.

btw, all of this stuff isn’t just vestigial. It all contributes to sexual pleasure. And I find it cool, knowing about all the awesome parts of my junk.

fuck it, time to share the fact I have a big old tattoo of a clit at the top of my spine. Erect, of course. A nice big boner.

Anyway, yeah, for god’s sake never learn about bodies from TERFs, they have no fucking clue about how genitalia work.

True story: I once thought that there were two very different biological sexes. It was my journey into understanding, accepting and enjoying my own junk that made me realise just how absurd that myth of drastically different biology is.

If I’ve used “junk” a lot in this thread, it’s because I really love it as an informal, gender-neutral term for “genitals”

I really can’t go on about how similar genitals are for everyone. Why do penises have that line down the front? Because it starts life in two parts. Look back to that diagram of the internal clitoris for the other way that erectile tissue can be arranged.

Why does the clitoris do that weird little loopy thing towards the end were it goes up and then hangs back down? Look at a cock, they do that, and it’s easier for nature to just pop the same ligaments in roughly the same places.

Why do we all have foreskins on our glanses, regardless of if it’s a clitoris or a penis? Again, nature is fucking lazy.

If anyone’s new to any of the information in this thread, don’t sweat. It isn’t widely-taught, and definitely not taught at school. It should be, if only because it’s a really easy-peasy way of teaching about how embryos arrange themselves into something recognisably human.‏

I also suspect there’s a political motive, of course, in not wanting everyone to know that basically what’s supposed to be immutable, vast biological differences is actually more of a case of us all having the same stuff.

ONE MORE THING I almost forgot to add. Female ejaculation/squirting. Often what comes out isn’t “just pee”. There’s prostate specific antigen in there too, because the Skene’s glands go “ohh I know this, this is where I come in *splorch*”

Incidentally, the internal clitoris is why, contrary to myths spread by sexually-inadequate men, vaginas are “tighter” when turned on: the whole thing is surrounded by erectile tissue on three sides.

btw while it’s rare, AFAB people *can* get prostate cancer, on account of having prostate tissue. It is *very* rare though.

likewise, AMAB people can get breast cancer, because everyone has breast tissue, because–say it with me–nature is fucking lazy and we all have the same junk.‏

btw, quick note on terminology in this thread: I’ve avoided using “g-spot” because it’s a bit contentious and probably applies to several bits– a combo of skene’s glands and the erectile tissue knocking round in the area.‏

I’m also using “skene’s glands” while some researchers prefer “female prostate”. This is mostly because the word “female” makes my skin crawl a bit, but they’re synonyms, so you can say “female prostate” OR “skene’s glands” depending on your preference.

(I’m sure most of you know I don’t like “female” because it’s used so often by TERFs and misogos alike in reducing women down to just being babymaking vessels)

and finally, on terminology, what I’m talking about is genitals, not the purely reproductive organs (testes, ovaries, uteruses). And if you think genitals can’t be divorced from reproductive function, go and collect every cum-soaked tissue you can find and give it a funeral.

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Shit I cannot believe needs saying: Your mate might be nice, but is an abuser

Content note: this post discusses domestic violence and abuse, and apologism

When a rich, powerful white man is accused of perpetrating violence against women, a dance begins. It is the world’s worst dance, making Agadoo look like the Bolshoi Ballet. In this well-choreographed dance, everybody rallies around the abuser. They support the abuser, claiming that he is the best guy in the world, and couldn’t have possibly done it. They leap over the evidence presented by the survivor, all in step. Nothing can dent their pal’s Nice Guy status.

It probably doesn’t even matter who the abuser is, or how well they truly know him. This dance is political: it is a way of protecting all abusers across the globe by showing survivors what happens if they speak out.

Let us pretend, for a moment, that some of what is being said is true. Let’s imagine a chap called Johnny Blepp, who has been accused of beating up his wife. Let’s imagine some washed-up pals of his, who we’ll call Paul Gettany and Dickey Rourke and Vanessa Cara–oh fuck it, we all know who we’re talking about here, don’t we?

I believe that Johnny Depp beat Amber Heard. I would believe this even without the sheer level of evidence that Amber Heard showed, the sheer level of evidence which was sufficient to get a restraining order granted.

And, to be perfectly honest, I’d believe Amber Heard even if I was BFFs with Johnny Depp, because I know something which has apparently escaped the notice of those who are seeking attention by leaping to his defence: even if a man is nice to you that doesn’t mean he’s incapable of harming anyone. 

If Paul Bettany had given things a moment’s thought, perhaps he would consider how he has never shared a house, a room, a bed with Johnny Depp, so probably can’t have the first clue what his pal’s like behind closed doors. If Mickey Rourke had had a little think before opening his gob, maybe he would have considered that just because he had never been hit by his mate, doesn’t mean his mate has never hit anyone. If Vanessa Paradis had taken a few seconds, maybe she would have remembered she hasn’t lived with her ex husband in at least four years, and a lot has happened in those four years, so perhaps so has her ex’s temper.

All of these people are outsiders. None of them are party to the knowledge of what goes on behind closed doors. So why on earth do they presume that they know so much that they can confidently accuse a woman of perjury?  That is, after all, what they are doing when a woman has gone to court, told her story (and been granted a restraining order), and they accuse her of having made it up.

I understand that it can sometimes feel implausible that your friend might do horrible things, but this is why it is important to remember that you have no way of knowing how they treat others. You have no way of knowing what it’s like when they go home. Abusers are manipulative people, and have you considered that you are being played?

Again, I get why people may be resistant to that question: nobody likes to feel like a fool. Nonetheless, Depp’s friends, coming out in support of him, are serving not just their mate, but abusers everywhere. They’re helpful little pawns, parroting a line which keeps survivors silent, showing survivors that nobody will believe them. Their intervention isn’t even particularly helpful to their friend: after all, nothing happens to rich white abusers. Look at Woody Allen and Roman Polanski, for example.

If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all. You’re not being objective in the slightest when you knee-jerk defend your friend based on your complete lack of knowledge. You don’t need to say anything at all: if you don’t believe the survivor, keep your gob shut, because you’re mostly basing your disbelief on misogynistic tropes you’ve been fed since birth. If you truly want to keep an open mind, you need to keep your mouth shut, and give what a survivor has said equal weighting to your pal’s denial.

All we know about our friends is they are nice to us. It is peculiarly childish to extend their niceness to us into an assumption that they are nice to everyone.

One day, I hope the dance will falter. I admire the courage of every woman who comes forward despite the power of the man who abused her, and despite the fact that surely she must know that everyone will close ranks with tedious predictability.

I believe Amber Heard. I cannot believe I need to say this, when it ought to go without saying. I believe that Johnny Depp attacked and beat his wife, and I believe Amber Heard.